I would like to take a minute to discuss my inspiration for this Blog..... For many years it has been discussed privately that women in our family may be CURSED! We have a Marriage Curse!
Being cursed meant we will never be happily married to any man! However, despite talks of a curse hanging over my head, I stayed optimistic that I would find Mr. Right....But found....No Mr. Right at age 25...No Mr. Right at age 30...No Mr. Right at age 35...Hey! maybe I am cursed??
At age 36, I have given up on marriage and have come to grips with the fact that I may never find my Mr. Right, only Mr. Right Now!
Once I stopped focusing on my tragic story, I noticed there are a number of women inside and outside of my family that are also in their 30's with children and single; some never married.
I must admit, it made me feel a little better about my situation, "Hey, I'm not the only one!"
But as I started to look deeper into the situation that I find myself and many others close to me in, I GOOGLED! And when I Googled, I found that only 27% of African-American women are married! Yet, 39% of Black Men are married, You figure that one out ladies!
The numbers hit home for me...You see I have an 18 yr old daughter and my prayer is that she is apart of the 27% and not the 80% like me! I want her to break the Curse!
But I realized it will be easy for her become apart of the 80% statistic if we do not begin to teach the next generation that we must get back to the basics of Family!
I'm writing this blog for men and women to have a voice on this issue. Hopefully to share your ideas, frustrations, and fears. I'm writing this blog for my children, my nieces, and nephews who are becoming young men and women, and will soon be faced with making life changing choices and decisions. I pray that they will not have to walk in our shoes and make the sacrifices that we have made.
Marry Us! Marry the Black Woman! Break the Generational Curse!
Well from experience I must tell you to stop (if this is the case)dwelling on what you don't want for yourself and your children and stay positive. Imagine your daughter in that beautiful white wedding gown, picture your nieces and nephews and others in the next generation "happily" married, doing well and that is what you will get!
ReplyDeleteNow I added " to happily because that is such a relative term. What is happines? Your idea of it may very well be different from mine and vise versa and that is definitely a discussion for another day.
Good Luck
Dont worry there is still time i am rooting for the 6/11/13..also enjoyed this read & the stats ..27% pretty scary
ReplyDeleteCursed? Like Keyshia Coles family? LOL. Frankie says they are cursed too! I just dont take it all that seriously. When you go to church you always see more women than men in the congregation. Why is that? Its funny that 27% of black women are currently married and 39% of men. When women out number men 4 to 1. Men have more "options" than we do and they take advantage of that. And, many women accept being those "options". Why buy the cow when you can get the milk free?
ReplyDeleteI am a 30 year old black man still looking for my Mrs.Right many people say they are looking for their "other half" but I know I am a WHOLE man looking for a WHOLE woman!! My question for the men and women out there is are you preparing yourself for when "the one" does show up
ReplyDeleteWe can't just sit around hope and pray they will arrive and everything will be ok. Until that day does come we needto work on ourselves and be ready
God bless
Hey Fam,
ReplyDeleteLUv the blog!! Will follow as faithfully as possible. Let the record show that I am Happily Married!! But I do want to say...THe product of our Choices are not punishment, but a testimony of what we have been through. If we love God, put him first, we will be able to share our testimony with others so that they may be blessed. The stats were alarming, but there are families with statistics much worse than ours. Ladies....love is out there. Just don't go looking for it. Let it find you. I am living proof. God bless!!